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Is this rude or is it just me?

by Sheraton @ 2008-06-27 - 11:52:33

My "best" friend has always had a problem with my fiance. I have heard that he feels like she has taken me away from him. Childish I know. Anyway, the other day before we were going out for a few drinks he came over to my house for a few drinks with my younger brother.

I welcomed them into my house and as they walked into my front room, my finace said "hello" to both of them. My best friend ignored her.

I got them both a beer and asked them to take a seat. He said he would prefer to stand (in the middle of the front room)!

My finace then offered to give us a lift into town, on the way there, he bumped his head on the roof of the car as we went over a speed bump. I heard him whisper "bitch" to my younger brother. (This was said in a 'jokey' way but I don't find it very funny when he is not even polite enough to say hello). I told him he was pissing me off already and to get out; he stayed in the car but also stayed quiet for the rest of the journey.

THEN!!... At the bar, he was showing me a joke on his phone when I noticed another text underneath. It was about my finace from a mutual friend (just asking if she was in the house). I checked his sent box and found out that whilst he was in my house he had text this friend saying how bored he was. He also had the cheek to text my younger brother who was there saying "see how she doesn't speak to me."

We had a row, he went home early and has since called me and apologised. I told him that if he can't guarantee he will be polite now, in the future and at the wedding then he can't be an usher. Fair enough?

I have recently found that a lot of people are pissing me off, they just seem to do what they want to benefit themselves, their social position or just for an ego boost and don't give a damn how this affects other people. Do I expect too much from people? Are they in the minority? Should I have stopped him being an usher? Maybe I have just been unlucky with my choice of friend? Maybe as we have grown up, we have grown apart?

For those of you who read my last post you will know what a tough year my fiance has had. She deserves respect despite this but you would think he could make an effort taking this into account!!

Aaaah...Needed to get that off my chest!!!


 
 

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technomisttechnomist [Member]
2008-06-27 @ 12:52

Just because you love someone does not mean others need to like or even respect her, but they should at least be polite. I think he isn't your friend if he does not understand how you are likely to feel regarding his behaviour towards your fiance.

What interests me is your brother's role in this. Does he also share reservations about your choice of bride?

Sheraton [Visitor]
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2008-06-29 @ 11:55

Thanks for your message. My younger brother wasn't really involved, apart from receiving the text. I think my friend had probably moaned about my fiance to him on the way to my house. The problem with my frined is exactly as you said, he doesn't take into account how his actions will make others feel. I've made it clear to him that I'm not expecting him to even pretend that he likes her, just to show some respect and be polite. Haven't spoken to him since he called to apologise but will have to see him soon as it's my stag night in a couple of weeks!!!

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